Mindset

I’m trying to change my mindset.

It’s really hard because I’ve convinced myself for far too long that there are certain things that I am just no good at, and there’s nothing that I can do to change that.

I’m trying to change that now, because I realised that not only is that universally not true – anything that you suck at you can suck at less if you put in the work – it’s also not true about me. I learned to congratulate myself about things that I did in my life that prove that I am good at some of those things that I think I suck at.

Learning that we all have that asshole within us that tells us that we can’t, that picks on every little thing we do wrong and every time we didn’t resist a temptation or didn’t do something we promised ourselves we would. That asshole is in all of us, and it’s just that some of us have learned – through hard work – to be awesome while that voice is still going in our heads.

Every morning it’s a struggle again for most of us. And there are some things that I’m starting to do now that should help. Setting clear goals is really important, and pushing ourselves to hit those goals is really important.

I heard a really wise person this week say that making the right choice is really hard, because more often than not the right choice feels like crap in the moment. Pushing yourself to write that sales email, not having that slice of cake, go to the gym – for most people those can feel like chores for most people, at least at first.

It’s only later on when it becomes apparent you made the right choice. When you feel that voice inside saying “you got it right there, well done”. Once you hear that voice, it becomes addictive, you want to hear it again and again. It’s getting there that’s tough.

I’m trying to change my mindset so that I can create a better life for my family. It’s great to be able to go on holidays, go out, get gadgets without having to stress about the financials of it.

Hope that helps

Jon